1  Core beliefs

Truth

  • Being in an official relationship for the first time has negligible correlation with your level of advancement, unlike developing a friendship, doing a small action that’s outside of your comfort zone, or how much complementarity you discover.
  • External things and your actions don’t need to match your feelings toward people. Perfection in your actions is not determined by the accuracy of other people’s predictions and imagination. The side effect of other people suspecting a feeling that you have is morally good or neutral, even if those feelings are false or indecisive. Making a sacrifice to prevent that side effect is not always morally good or neutral.
  • Perfection is different from perfect imitation.
  • An uncomfortable situation is usually not a forbidden situation.

Not prematurely assumed

Do not prematurely assume that any of these things are true about a situation:

  • Someone being interested in you is a special and important situation. (If you do something that makes someone feel good, that’s a different deal.)
  • A fantasy includes no real possibilities.
  • You’re a bad person for doing or trying something. (n.d.)
  • You behaved correctly.
  • Someone else behaved incorrectly.

Brainwashing factors

These things happening, being perceived, or being feared might have contributed to surprisingly deep brainwashing in you:

  • Excessive reactions to things that are not evil
  • Perception of weirdness or false meaning in an extremely close and long platonic friendship between a girl and a boy
  • Talking about your relationship status when they should be talking about how much you are connecting with people of the opposite sex or with people in general (example: relatives asking “Do you have a girlfriend yet?”)
  • Perception of weirdness in crush that is short-lived or toward multiple people simultaneously
  • Crush being described in a way that differs from other feelings (e.g. “a crush on” instead of “crush for” or “crush toward”)
  • False beliefs in objective meanings (e.g. seeing person A look at person B in a certain way, then telling person B that person A has crush)